The SC Blog: New Essays every Month
All essays found here were written by Starobin Counseling staff.
Intelligence? Lots, and none of it’s artificial!
“You’re Not Hearing Me!” Why We Feel Unheard and Unseen in our Relationships
When a loved one learns you can't tolerate their hard feelings, the hard feelings don’t stop. They just stop bringing them to you. Valerie Kolick, LGPC breaks down four reactions that feel like love but land like rejection, then explains how learning to “hold space” can rebuild intimacy & trust.
The Ongoing Journey to Self-Love
In this blog, Melissa Hinton, LCSW-C explains that self-love isn’t a destination, it’s a practice. Practice staying curious about whether our inner voice is reflecting our own values. Practice in self-compassion and accepting imperfections. Practice remembering that our worth is never conditional.
“No” and Other Accommodations
Humans have an astonishing ability to solve problems. We unconsciously adopt workarounds and quirks that allow us to move through the world with more ease. But even when we’re following our intuition there’s value in stepping back to get curious about the accommodations we’ve created for ourselves.
Three Counterintuitive Steps to Heal Resentment and Reconnect
Is resentment ruining your marriage without you even knowing it? Discover the hidden signs of emotional disconnection, why communication tips don’t work when resentment builds, and three powerful steps to rebuild intimacy, trust, and lasting connection in your relationship.
Toxic Positivity: When ‘Good Vibes Only’ Goes Bad
Not every situation needs a silver lining or 'good vibes only.' Sometimes, life just sucks, and that’s okay. This blog explores why toxic positivity invalidates real emotions, the power of gratitude and dialectics, and how embracing the messy, full spectrum of feelings is where real healing begins.
Cherishing Each Other: Neurodiversity-minded Relational Living
When neurodiverse relationships run into tough times, partners want empathy…but sometimes they’re so busy blaming they don’t realize empathy is a two way street. Relational Life Therapy helps couples see the Double Empathy Problem in their relationship and steers them towards relational living.