The SC Blog: New Essays every Month
All essays found here were written by Starobin Counseling staff.
Intelligence? Lots, and none of it’s artificial!
Why Repair Is The Missing Skill Your Relationship Needs
When conflict hits, it’s possible to stop the three-hour postgame, the rug-sweep, and the cold silence. Certified Relationship Coach Valerie Kolick, MA, explains how to use Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy (RLT) 4-step Feedback Wheel to repair and reconnect in minutes.
Three Counterintuitive Steps to Heal Resentment and Reconnect
Is resentment ruining your marriage without you even knowing it? Discover the hidden signs of emotional disconnection, why communication tips don’t work when resentment builds, and three powerful steps to rebuild intimacy, trust, and lasting connection in your relationship.
Cherishing Each Other: Neurodiversity-minded Relational Living
When neurodiverse relationships run into tough times, partners want empathy…but sometimes they’re so busy blaming they don’t realize empathy is a two way street. Relational Life Therapy helps couples see the Double Empathy Problem in their relationship and steers them towards relational living.
STOP! In the Name of Love…
Fear can interfere when couples are considering therapy to help repair their relationships. Addressing fears and debunking common myths can help couples feel brave enough to open up and seek help from a skilled, compassionate therapist and realize there is hope for a connected path forward.

