The SC Blog: New Essays every Month

All essays found here were written by Starobin Counseling staff.

Intelligence? Lots, and none of it’s artificial!

Relationships, communication, empathy, repair, relational life therapy, Relationship issues Valerie Kolick, MA, RLT Certified Relationship Coach Relationships, communication, empathy, repair, relational life therapy, Relationship issues Valerie Kolick, MA, RLT Certified Relationship Coach

“You’re Not Hearing Me!” Why We Feel Unheard and Unseen in our Relationships

When a loved one learns you can't tolerate their hard feelings, the hard feelings don’t stop. They just stop bringing them to you. Valerie Kolick, LGPC breaks down four reactions that feel like love but land like rejection, then explains how learning to “hold space” can rebuild intimacy & trust.

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Relationships, Relational Life Therapy, clinical insights, repair, relationship issues Valerie Kolick, MA, RLT Certified Relationship Coach Relationships, Relational Life Therapy, clinical insights, repair, relationship issues Valerie Kolick, MA, RLT Certified Relationship Coach

Couple’s Intensives: Trendy or Transformative?

One of the most painful experiences?  Disconnection from the one person you need to choose you every day.  A couples therapist gets honest about the rise of Couple’s Intensives: what they are, who they're for, and whether transformation can actually happen in a weekend.

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relationships, Relational Living, Empathy, Relational Life Therapy, stress, repair, neurodiverse relationships Valerie Kolick, MA, RLT Certified Relationship Coach relationships, Relational Living, Empathy, Relational Life Therapy, stress, repair, neurodiverse relationships Valerie Kolick, MA, RLT Certified Relationship Coach

Why Repair Is The Missing Skill Your Relationship Needs

When conflict hits, it’s possible to stop the three-hour postgame, the rug-sweep, and the cold silence. Certified Relationship Coach Valerie Kolick, MA, explains how to use Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy (RLT) 4-step Feedback Wheel to repair and reconnect in minutes.

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