The SC Blog: New Essays every Month
All essays found here were written by Starobin Counseling staff.
Intelligence? Lots, and none of it’s artificial!
“You’re Not Hearing Me!” Why We Feel Unheard and Unseen in our Relationships
When a loved one learns you can't tolerate their hard feelings, the hard feelings don’t stop. They just stop bringing them to you. Valerie Kolick, LGPC breaks down four reactions that feel like love but land like rejection, then explains how learning to “hold space” can rebuild intimacy & trust.
Building a Strong Marriage While Blending Families
Falling in love is shared between two people…but marriage connects much larger relational networks. When wedding planning highlights family differences, each one can feel like a problem to solve. Dr. Rikia Ancar views differences as opportunities to intentionally create a shared family culture.
Couple’s Intensives: Trendy or Transformative?
One of the most painful experiences? Disconnection from the one person you need to choose you every day. A couples therapist gets honest about the rise of Couple’s Intensives: what they are, who they're for, and whether transformation can actually happen in a weekend.
Curiosity As the Bridge: Navigating Relationships in a Polarized World
If you’re struggling to maintain communication across political or moral divides - and feeling disconnected from someone you care about - these tools can help you stay present, compassionate, and grounded. Eva Crawford, LCSW-C, explains how to hold both values and relationships at the same time.